Reviewed by Stéphanie Deslauriers, psychoeducator.

Have you noticed sudden changes in your teen’s behaviour? Maybe they’ve lost their appetite, their self-confidence seems low, or they’re lacking drive. Or maybe they’re overly excitable or even aggressive. When a teen starts acting in worrisome ways, it’s normal to question what’s causing it. But as a parent, it can be hard to know:
• How to bring up such a delicate issue
• What to say or do to encourage your teen to open up to you and ask for help

Read on for advice on how to support your teen through mental health struggles. 

Watch and ask questions

Most teens experiencing psychological distress or panic attacks are afraid to ask for help because they don’t want to be judged or misunderstood, and they fear disappointing their loved ones or making them worry. They internalize their suffering and it becomes very hard to express how they feel. But when you know your teen well, you may notice certain changes in their behaviour that could be signs of underlying psychological distress.

When you notice a drastic change in your teen’s behaviour, the first thing you should do is give them the opportunity to express themselves. They need to know they are being heard, supported, and guided, without judgement. Help them confide in you by asking a few simple questions to show you care, such as: 

• I’m worried about you. How have you been feeling lately?

• Do you want to talk about what’s been going on?

If they’re reluctant to talk, consider asking people who are close to them—close friends, family members, teachers who play a significant role in their lives—whether they have the same concerns. They might have noticed a change too, and they may be able to play a part in the healing process and provide support when stress gets the better of your teen.