Recognizing psychological distress

Helping Your Child Develop a Healthy Body Image

Recognizing psychological distress

Helping Your Child Develop a Healthy Body Image

Author: Marie-Michèle Ricard,

Psychoeducator, psychotherapist, teacher.

Did you know that more than half of young people are dissatisfied with their physical appearance? It’s not surprising, given that it only takes three minutes of exposure to stereotypically beautiful models in magazines to intensify feelings of depression, shame, guilt, insecurity, stress, and body dissatisfaction.1 Young people sometimes develop unhealthy habits when trying to conform to these unrealistic body ideals, which can then affect their physical and mental health. 

But as a parent, how can you tell if your child has body image issues? And how can you help them learn to accept themself as they are? 

 

What is body image?

Body image is the mental representation that we have of our own bodies. This image is associated with thoughts, emotions, and behaviours and can be positive or negative. 

A young person’s self-esteem is built on their: 

  • Physical characteristics (gender, age, weight, etc.) 
  • Personality 
  • Interpersonal relationships 
  • Socialization 

Together, all of these factors play a role in how satisfied they are with their body. 

Body dissatisfaction begins in childhood and then increases with age, reaching its peak in adolescence. Children as young as five have been seen to express body dissatisfaction, and their need to control their appearance seems to be triggered even more strongly when they start school. 

For teens, body image is heavily influenced by puberty and all the changes it brings. During this pivotal phase, young people must constantly adapt to a new body image. 

How does poor body image affect teens?

When a teenager has a negative body image, they are very critical about their body and feel shame, guilt, sadness, or anger towards it. 

Being dissatisfied with their body increases their risk of developing an unhealthy relationship with their body, but also with food, which in turn can lead to a desire to control their weight or lose weight, and sometimes to eating disorders. Teens may also experience anxiety, depression, and issues at school, and may seek to isolate themselves from others.2

 

It is estimated that 55% of young people are dissatisfied with their appearance.3

 

When should you start to worry?

If you notice that your child has a poor body image, you should observe how it impacts their mood, perceptions, and behaviours. Watch for the following warning signs: 

  • Isolating themself and avoiding certain social activities 
  • Refraining from eating or making significant changes to their diet 
  • Eating only when they’re alone 
  • Having symptoms of depression or anxiety related to their diet or body 
  • Criticizing themself and continuously talking about their appearance 
  • If you notice any of these signs in your child, they may be overly concerned, or even obsessed, with their body image. Talk to them about it as soon as possible, and don’t hesitate to turn to a health care professional for help. 

What role do you play in the development of your child’s body image?

As a parent, you play an important role in building your child’s body image, as you are one of the first role models that they will identify with. Your own body image, your eating behaviours, and the comments you make about weight are significant points of reference for your child.4 

If you model restrictive eating habits at home,5 comment on your teen’s weight or that of others,6 or compare them to their siblings, you may be unknowingly harming your teen’s body image. 

Similarly, you should avoid complimenting or passing judgment on people’s appearance, clothing, or weight. These topics are very common in everyday conversations, but even when the comments are positive, they could have a negative impact on your child when they hear them. So, it’s best to avoid talking about weight with your teenager, even if your intentions are good or the conversation is health-related. 

On the other hand, conversations that focus on healthy relationships with their body and food (listening to their body’s cues, maintaining a balanced diet, not restricting food, etc.) or on the importance of being physically active for the fun of it, without mentioning weight, will help to: 

  • Prevent problematic eating behaviours 
  • Promote the development of a healthy relationship with food and their body 
  • Encourage the attainment of a natural weight7 

Video about body image

Did you know that 55% of teens are dissatisfied with their appearance? In this video on body image, young people share their stories and a psychoeducator shares advice to help teens accept their bodies.

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Sources

[1] Stice et al., 1994.

[2] Tiggemann, 2005.

[3] Traoré et al., 2018.

[4] Thompson et al., 2002.

[5] Tremblay & Limbos, 2009.

[6] Coughlin et al., 2003.

[7] Pudney et al., 2019.